June, 2017

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Create discontentment to inspire your people continually

… Dan continued, “I should stretch and challenge my team to aim high beyond what they normally think they can achieve.”

“That sounds a great plan,” Rafael complimented. And further pointed out, “Showing their people what they might have ignored or undermined, and pointing them to see their many other untapped talents is the prime responsibility of leaders. Most importantly, motivational leaders are those who provide opportunities that allow their people to push their limit and achieve extraordinary results by tapping into their hidden talents. Once their people see that they can push themselves beyond the limits they themselves put in place, they keep on pushing to achieve more.”

If leaders don’t create discontentment and motivate their people to aim high, chances are high that they may settle for less. One of my favorite motivational speakers, Les Brown famously remarked, “Most people fail in life not because they aim too high and miss, but because they aim too low and hit.” Andrew Carnegie, a self-motivated steel tycoon who was considered as one of the richest people of 19th century lamented, “People who are unable to motivate themselves must be content with mediocrity, no matter how impressive their other talents.”

Steve Jobs was one of such leaders. In the 1980s, a self-inspired co-founder of Apple used to motivate his team by constantly reminding them why they were there. He was quoted as saying, “We’re here to put a dent in the universe. Otherwise, why even be here.” He created discontentment within his original team members. Rather than thinking that they were there to come up with another kind of computer, they felt that they were there to change the world for good. And surely, they put a huge dent in the universe and left a legacy…

Taken from page 172 of the book ‘Soft Skills That Make or Break Your Success: 12 soft skills to master self, get along with, and lead others.’

Notes:

1. The print and Kindle version of the book will soon be available. Stay tuned.

2. Below are some of the follow-up services Success Pathways will soon start to provide based on the theme of the book:

  1. Book signings
  2. Keynotes
  3. Individual workshops
  4. Individual and group coaching
  5. Soft Skill Development program

If you may have any question or need additional information, let’s know. If you’re also interested in getting one or more of these services, don’t hesitate to reach out:

Web: www.successpws.com

Emailassegid@successpws.com and/or assegidh@gmail.com

Tel: 703-895-4551

Interview with Arnold Snow about Soft Skills

While still drafting my book in 2015, which will be published soon, I interviewed Arnold Snow- a masterful communicator, about Soft Skills.

Here is the interview: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OmdKaN8Ivsc

Enjoy watching!

 

Notes:

1. The print and kindle version of the book will soon be available. Stay tuned.

2. Below are some of the follow-up services Success Pathways will soon start to provide based on the theme of the book:

  1. Book signings
  2. Keynotes
  3. Individual workshops
  4. Individual and group coaching
  5. Soft Skill Development program

If you may have any question or need additional information, let’s know. If you’re also interested to get one or more of these services, don’t hesitate to reach out:

Web: www.successpws.com

Emailassegid@successpws.com and/or assegidh@gmail.com

Tel: 703-895-4551

Going beyond charisma and enthusiasm to motivate others

…People are attracted to leaders who are skillful in motivating them to become more, do more, and achieve more. Belittling leaders who are limiting easily repel people. These kinds of leaders cannot tap into the unlimited potential of their people. They cannot take them to the next level.

Unfortunately, many think that the ability to motivate others is a gift than a soft skill that can be developed. And therefore, they don’t proactively invest their time and resources to learn how to motivate others. Even those who believe that this soft skill can be developed, they think that motivating others is all about giving pep talks, being charismatic, and exuding passion and energy to inspire others to do extraordinary things.

Though being charismatic and speaking with enthusiasm motivates some. It’s not enough to motivate all people and consistently…

 

 

Taken from page 169 – 170 of the book ‘Soft Skills That Make or Break Your Success: 12 soft skills to master self, get along with, and lead others.’

Notes:

1. The print and kindle version of the book will soon be available. Stay tuned.

2. Below are some of the follow-up services Success Pathways will soon start to provide based on the theme of the book:

  1. Book signings
  2. Keynotes
  3. Individual workshops
  4. Individual and group coaching
  5. Soft Skill Development program

If you may have any question or need additional information, let’s know. If you’re also interested to get one or more of these services, don’t hesitate to reach out:

Web: www.successpws.com

Emailassegid@successpws.com and/or assegidh@gmail.com

Tel: 703-895-4551

IQ and Social intelligence aren’t enough to succeed in the 21st C- Taken from p. 141

…With the opportunity to meet, interact, and work with diverse people comes the challenge to get along and succeed in what we do individually and collectively. This challenge is understandable. One may have extraordinary social intelligence when it comes to interacting and working with people who are within his/her native culture. The individual knows the customs, beliefs, and anathemas very well. Thus, getting along is relatively easy since he/she communicates, interacts, behaves, and acts according to the cultural codes without offending and entering into any kind of misunderstanding and conflict with others.

However, to get along and succeed in the 21st C, it takes more than having superb IQ and social intelligence. The author of ‘The Cultural Intelligence Difference’ David Livermore wrote, The number one predictor of your success in today’s borderless world is not your IQ, not your resume, and not even your expertise.” He continued, “It’s your CQ (Cultural Intelligence), a powerful capability that is proven to enhance your effectiveness working in culturally diverse situations.”

Sadly, many organizations still depend on IQ and social intelligence when they select supervisors and managers. The author of ‘Cultural Intelligence: CQ: The competitive edge for leaders crossing borders’, Julia Middleton said, Organizations often appoint leaders for their IQ. Then, years later, sack them for their lack of EQ (Emotional Intelligence).” She then predicted, “Common Purpose argues that in the future they will promote for CQ – Cultural Intelligence.”…

 

Taken from page 141 of the book ‘Soft Skills That Make or Break Your Success: 12 soft skills to master self, get along with, and lead others.’

 

Notes:

1. The print and kindle version of the book will soon be available. Stay tuned.

2. Below are some of the follow-up services Success Pathways will soon start to provide based on the theme of the book:

  1. Book signings
  2. Keynotes
  3. Individual workshops
  4. Individual and group coaching
  5. Soft Skill Development program

If you may have any question or need additional information, let’s know. If you’re also interested to get one or more of these services, don’t hesitate to reach out:

Emailassegid@successpws.com and/or assegidh@gmail.com

Tel: 703-895-4551

Technical skills alone cannot take you to the next height

…I’d been a technical professional since the turn of the new century up until I decided to become a trainer in 2007. Between 2000 – 2005, I worked as a researcher for an international research organization. I also worked as a production operator and then a software engineer for a multinational corporation between 2005 – 2007.

These great opportunities gave me chances to work with so many outstanding technical professionals. The majority of these technically superb professionals, though experienced in their field of studies, they struggled to continually advance in their career and climb the corporate ladder due to lack of certain soft skills.

Many technical professionals in accounting, medicine, engineering, math, science, IT, and so on over depend on their technical abilities, and thus, give minimal attention toward improving their soft skills on a consistent basis. They assume that the technical skills that brought them thus far would take them to the next height. Marshall Goldsmith disagrees. He argued, What got you here won’t get you there.”…

 

Taken from page 131 of the book ‘Soft Skills That Make or Break Your Success: 12 soft skills to master self, get along with, and lead others.’

 

Notes:

1. The print and kindle version of the book will soon be available. Stay tuned.

2. Below are some of the follow-up services Success Pathways will soon start to provide based on the theme of the book:

  1. Book signings
  2. Keynotes
  3. Individual workshops
  4. Individual and group coaching
  5. Soft Skill Development program

If you may have any question or need additional information, let’s know. If you’re also interested to get one or more of these services, don’t hesitate to reach out:

Emailassegid@successpws.com and/or assegidh@gmail.com

Tel: 703-895-4551

Soft Skills for collective success

…It’s impossible to meet our corporate goals by solely depending on our people’s technical abilities. The workplace needs, more than ever, team members who have developed certain soft skills. The latter contribute toward more effective, harmonious, and fruitful work environment, which in turn leads to achieving irrefutable results collectively.

In response to NACE’s Job Outlook 2016 survey, out of the ten skills employers look for when they hire, the top-five are soft skills. These soft skills include, “Ability to verbally communicate with persons inside and outside the organization, Ability to work in a team structure, Ability to make decisions and solve problems, Ability to plan, organize and prioritize work, and Ability to obtain and process information.”

 

Taken from page 27 of the book ‘Soft Skills That Make or Break Your Success: 12 soft skills to master self, get along with, and lead others.’

 

Notes:

1. The print and kindle version of the book will soon be available. Stay tuned.

2. Below are some of the follow-up services Success Pathways will soon start to provide based on the theme of the book:

  1. Book signings
  2. Keynotes
  3. Individual workshops
  4. Individual and group coaching
  5. Soft Skill Development program

If you may have any question or need additional information, let’s know. If you’re also interested to get one or more of these services, don’t hesitate to reach out:

Emailassegid@successpws.com and/or assegidh@gmail.com

Tel: 703-895-4551

Soft skills to attain impactful, lasting, & sustainable success

…Remember that without these 12 soft skills one may still:

·      Find a job,

·      Open a business,

·      Get promoted, and

·      Even take a key leadership position like in the case of Dan.

Nonetheless, it’s unlikely to:

  • Succeed
  • Serve one’s organization,
  • Community, and
  • Society extraordinarily without developing these key soft skills.

These 12 soft skills make or break your individual and/or collective success. They are mandatory to:

  • Attain impactful,
  • Lasting, and
  • Sustainable success…

Taken from page 7 of the book ‘Soft Skills That Make or Break Your Success: 12 soft skills to master self, get along with, and lead others.’

 

 

Notes:

1. The print and kindle version of the book will soon be available. Stay tuned.

2. Below are some of the follow-up services Success Pathways will soon start to provide based on the theme of the book:

  1. Book signings
  2. Keynotes
  3. Individual workshops
  4. Individual and group coaching
  5. Soft Skill Development program

If you may have any question or need additional information, let’s know. If you’re also interested to get one or more of these services, don’t hesitate to reach out:

Emailassegid@successpws.com and/or assegidh@gmail.com

Tel: 703-895-4551

Soft Skills that Make or Break Your Success- Preface

Preface

Researches show that the lion share of success comes from soft skills than technical. Sadly, many professionals over depend on their technical skills. And thus, neglect to develop their soft skills proactively and in turn pay dire prices individually and cause havoc in their organizations. Common complaints such as high turnover, conflict, lack of synergy, and low levels of productivity in many of today’s organizations come down to lack of certain soft skills.

This book is based on the story of a successful professional , Dan Murphy who works for a multinational research organization- Global Health Research (GHR). Dan was promoted to lead a multimillion dollar project because of his superb technical skills as a researcher. Unfortunately, due to lack of certain soft skills, problems started to prop up. He couldn’t get along with his peers, and lead his team members.

After several attempt to help, verbal warnings, and then a written one for his file, his immediate boss- Susan Jeffrey, decided to remove him from leading the project. However, since Dan was one of the superstar researchers at GHR, this caused havoc and forced the CEO- Paul Gray, to intervene. Finally, Paul negotiated a deal, which required Dan to attend a three-part Soft Skills Development program, and to work with a mentor in order to continue lead the project.

The book narrates how the problem began, the negotiations, and the main discussion points from the mentoring sessions. The first part of the book covers the discussions among Dan, Susan, and Paul. Introductions of the remaining three parts (Mastering Self, Getting Along, and Leading Others) narrate the discussions between the trainer and attendees of the program. The 12 chapters narrate Dan’s one-on-one mentoring sessions with his mentor- Rafael Arthur.

The main discussion points of each mentoring session include:

  1. Four key lessons he learned;
  2. Some of the assessments, processes, models, and/or tools he found helpful; and
  3. Immediate actions he plans to take as a result of attending that particular workshop.

The story of GHR and its staff in this book is fictional but realistic. GHR and its employees serve as an illustration of common challenges many companies around the world may face because of lack of certain soft skills. As a former researcher and workshop facilitator for scientific and research organizations, the examples are based on my experiences though the identifying details have been changed.

The program Dan attended is composed of 12 interactive workshops necessary to master self, get along with, and lead others. These 12 soft skills are industry and culture neutral. In whichever industry and country you may belong, they empower you to achieve extraordinary success in your personal life, career, and business.

Speaking of extraordinary success, by default, we all strive to succeed. It’s within our DNA. By hook or by crook, every one of us goes the extra mile to succeed- to achieve more, and go to the next level. We all, individually and collectively, have a desire to succeed.

Of course, success is subjective. It’s in the eye of the beholder. What you consider success may not be recognized as success by someone else, and vice versa.

To achieve the success that you’re pursuing, you need personal mastery; you need to get along with, and lead others successfully. And, this book contains great insights, tools, and processes that empower you to develop the 12 soft skills that make or break your success in life, career, and/or business.

 

Notes:
1. The print and kindle version of the book will soon be available. Stay tuned.

2. Below are some of the follow-up services Success Pathways will soon start to provide based on the theme of the book:

  1. Book signings
  2. Keynotes
  3. Individual workshops
  4. Individual and group coaching
  5. Soft Skill Development program

If you may have any question or need additional information, let’s know. If you’re also interested to get one or more of these services, don’t hesitate to reach out:
Email: assegid@successpws.com and/or assegidh@gmail.com
Tel: 703-895-4551

 

Using humor as a weapon to become approachable

Sense of humor is one of the tools we need as leaders. It helps us to become approachable and a leader easy to work with. As leaders, we need our people to give us tough and constructive criticisms. We need them to take chances and willing to fail. We need them to feel safe to suggest ideas that may seem silly. Sometimes, the solutions that we need desperately may come from those ideas people discount as silly.

If we’re unapproachable, it becomes very hard for other people to work with us. If we’re too formal and too rigid all the time, it makes getting along with others a little tougher. It’s also unlikely to get serious feedbacks from others. Our people won’t be willing to take risk. They may not venture to speak their mind.

So far, some leaders resisted this recommendation. They came up with so many reasons why they cannot and/or won’t use humor in the workplace. Some of the justifications make sense. Nonetheless, one of the most frequent reasons that haven’t convinced me yet is: “We all aren’t gifted comedians”.

Yes, we all can’t make jokes every other minute like Trevor Noah and David Letterman et al. Yes, we all aren’t comedians. I myself struggle in this area. But, I learned to make jokes on my stumbling and myself.

By the way, you don’t need to make jokes on a minute-by-minute basis to become approachable and playful. There’re many opportunities around you, here and there, which you could tap into and become playful once in awhile.

Warning! If you aren’t a gifted comedian don’t make jokes, especially in the expense of others. The safest approach is, I found out that, making jokes on yourself and your stumbling, and so on.

Try it! You may find it helpful. However, note that if using humor and becoming playful isn’t appropriate and right fit to your organizational culture and the situation you find yourself, be creative to come up with other methods, using humor is just one of the approaches you may consider. Good luck!

 

Success Pathways, LLC (www.successpws.com) provides interactive and dynamic soft skill and leadership workshops for diverse clients using latest adult learning methods.